How to Ninja & Win Against Your Adversary
A few days ago, I came across a blog post about How to Ruin Your Brand, which is about Boyet Fajardo.
Being a geek & nerd, I do not know who Boyet Fajardo is and I don’t care at all. I am just not into fashion, I’m happy as a child to have clothes to wear because deep inside I know how many people doesn’t have any decent clothes (whether it’s their fault or not). So I am happy with what I have.
But the post got me curious so I read…
I now know who Boyet Fajardo is, and sadly, my first knowledge and awareness of his existence is a very negative one – he is someone who berates cashiers and managers of duty free, because according to him, they were messing with him.
Quoting from the blog:
While waiting in line at the cashiers to pay our goodies…we saw a customer at the top of his voice berating the cashiers and managers of duty free for, by his accounts, messing around with him. From what my sister told me, it was about a credit card purchase that the cashier (who we heard was just a casual employee) was kindly asking for the irate customer’s other ID’s to vouch the legit owner of the credit card which is also “unsigned”, a normal operating procedure when shopping there to avoid misuse of those with con minds.
But for this post, I am not going to talk about Boyet Fajardo, you sure read and heard many posts and discussions about him. Instead, I want to talk about what caught my attention in the video embed provided by the blog.
Have you seen that video? Did you see the guy (or according to Fajardo “bakla” [gay]) knelt before the customer (Fajardo)? That struck me.. hard.
Maybe many of us will have reacted like this: “Why did he kneel before him?! Stupid! That’s the reason why people like Fajardo exist, they let themselves be stepped upon and be pushed around!”
Not me. For the first time in my life, not me. Before I would have shared the same reaction and I’ll do something worst than what you would have done, but this time I saw something I did not see in other similar cases before – Humility.
That guy is the cashier who asked for Fajardo’s ID to confirm if he is who he claimed he is and it matches the unsigned credit card. This cashier guy might have knelt because of stress (the managers are there; he felt stupid for not knowing “Boyet Fajardo” [don’t be, I don’t even know him until now]) and out-of-fear (of losing his job; or going to jail; or for his family because Fajardo started contacting powerful people).
But, he knelt before his ‘enemy’. Let me ask you, would you have done the same thing even if you are stressed and is already afraid? Most of us will answer ‘no’ to that, including me. In that situation, if I was that guy, the gates of hell will break open – I will give my all and stand and fight – to hell with my job, I am not going to give this guy his victory.
Mr. Cashier knelt, and by kneeling, he gave up his dignity, his victory, his Human Right. Or did he? As Mr. TedWahler said in reply to my plurk entry, “The cashier posses that rare wisdom of a brilliant warrior. He immediately grasped the situation and stole the victory from his adversary”; “The cashier is a true Ninja”.
I strongly agree, Mr. Cashier humbled himself and stole the victory from his adversary. Noticed how Fajardo moved his attention elsewhere and tried to keep going with his argument? His balance was shaken because something unexpected happened before him. No Human will not feel anything if the person you are attacking kneels before you. That person is sick if he didn’t feel anything (Scientists have discovered something in our brain if damaged, it makes us feel nothing after doing something bad).
This humble guy reminded me of these verses:
38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ 39 But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. 40 If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also. 41 And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. 42 Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away.”
19 Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.
“If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
If he is thirsty, give him a drink;
For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.”
21 Do not overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
To Mr. Cashier, you have been a blessing to us for showing a very good quality that the majority of the world (including myself) lacks today – Humility. I pray that it won’t affect you, and don’t let it affect you. You conquered evil with good, and I’m sure a reward for you is on its way.
God Bless to all.
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